Prayer to Joseph

Joseph the carpenter and husband of Mary,
foster father of the Son of the Most High;
pray for the wearers of the green scapular.

You who knew Jesus so intimately,
and took care of providing your family bread,
help me to learn to provide for my family.

I’ve spent the last 3 years learning to improve
my spiritual life, and feel at times that I have gained
nothing in this time spent. Please pray that I,
like you, may increase in faith, love, and charity.

My heart is being prepared to build a family,
pray that my mind and my hands follow suit.

I’d like more than anything to live a pious and devout
married life with Yan Hong; please pray that we have
time and trials in order to refine us for our pursuit
towards Heaven.

Pray for Yan Hong, likewise, to cease in her sins,
whatever they may be,
and to be baptized in the name of the Father,
the Son, and the Holy Spirit.

And pray, oh devout husband of Mary,
that we may be wed in holy matrimony
by a priest of the Roman Catholic Church,
with instructions that we may live a chaste
and devout life together for the rest of our days.


I made an arrangement with the Society of the Green Scapular this month in order to be able to send out a number of scapulars to my artist friends in countries around the world. So far I’ve heard but a handful of replies; some thankful, some less-than-thankful; and I think I’m more inclined to pray for the ones who reject my mailing more than those who accept it with open arms.

This is because, according to Saint Faustina’s diary, Jesus suffers most for ungrateful sinners whom could have received many graces but instead choose to snub our Lord and reject His good graces.

But in the gospel it also says, “And whoever does not receive you nor listen to your words, as you leave that house or city, shake the dust off your feet. Truly I say to you, it will be more tolerable for the land of Sodom and Gomorrah on the day of judgment, than for that city.”

So I think I’m split; in my heart I want to pray for my atheist friends, but perhaps the Lord would rather I focus my energies on those who will accept the gospel, the teaching, and the prayers that lead us to salvation.

I’ve made a friend in Brother David Mary these past two weeks. As I send out my prayer requests he is always most welcoming to my prayers and voices an air of positivity concerning them. It is in stark contrast to some of the other Catholic servants in the past whose responses to me were to stop sending prayer requests. It saddened me greatly when I sent an email to the Marians of the Immaculate Conception for my prayer and was told to stop sending any more prayer requests.

In fact I have a lot of interpersonal complaints regarding the Catholic Church, and this is just one of many; I accept that people are human and make mistakes, but those in charge are responsible for leading the rest of us in prayer, fasting, and alms giving.

Since around the time of my separation and divorce, my daughter by birth refused to be acknowledged as a girl and so prefers male and masculine pronouns. This was fine with me, she has autism and a slough of other psychological impairments and I didn’t see the point of pushing her into the role of a girl against her will. But my priest said there are only two genders, determined by birth, and backed it up with this passage from Genesis: “Male and Female He Created Them”: Gen 1:27 So I lost my remaining child because I called her a girl based on this teaching.

I think the Church needs clearer doctrine regarding the shift to fluid genders. I think yes, maybe it is wrong in as much as it contributes to cultural relativism and the idea that truth is subjective; but how do we treat it so that we are not tearing apart the fabric of our families?

Painting for Gabriel Nathanael Rossmiller, Guido Vermeulen, 2011

I lost my first child to death at age 4; now my second child at 18 has rejected and disowned me. Gabriel was baptized and died well beforce the age of culpability, so I can assume he is in Heaven now.

Gabriel, pray for us; especially for me, your mother, and your sibling.